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I started this blog to share phrases and ideas which help me to feel good whilst living with a 'scleroderma and Raynaud's' diagnosis, to which there is no cure.
Attitude is everything - so pick a good one!
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“Until you surrender the need to know why
things happened to you as they did, you will hold on to your wounds with
intense emotional fire.
Your mind will want to heal, but your pride,
anger and emotions will remain caught up in wanting to make sure that the
people who hurt you feel bad about what they've done.
Or you may want to hurt them back.
But rest assured, your emotional self will
remain attached to the unfinished business rooted in feelings of abandonment
and humiliation, of having lost something or been cheated.
Your mind may do what's required for healing
and go through all the prescribed steps, but your heart will never fully
participate in the healing process.
In the end, forgiveness is an act of release,
surrendering the need for an explanation.
From that prospective, forgiveness has nothing
to do with the individuals who harmed you.
It is the act of accepting that there is a
greater map of life, through which flow many rivers of events and
relationships, all interconnected.
Forgiveness is your release form the hell of
wanting to know what cannot be known and from wanting to see others suffer because
they have hurt you."
~ Caroline Myss
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“The 79th verse of the Tao Te Ching, which has
been especially helpful to me personally, can be called “Living Without
Resentment.”
We’re asked to change the way we hold
resentments following a difference of opinion or an outright quarrel.
Now what causes annoyance and anger after a
dispute?
The generic response would be a laundry list
that detailed why the other person was wrong and how illogically and
unreasonably they behaved, concluding with something like, “I have a right to
be upset when my [daughter, mother-in-law, ex-husband, boss, or whomever you’re
thinking of] speaks to me that way!”
But if you’re interested in living a Tao-filled
life, it’s imperative that you reverse this kind of thinking.
Resentments don’t come from the conduct of the
other party in an altercation — no, they survive and thrive because you’re
unwilling to end that altercation with an offering of kindness, love, and
authentic forgiveness.
Lao-tzu says,
“Someone must risk
returning injury with kindness,
or hostility will never
turn to goodwill.”
So when all of the yelling, screaming, and
threatening words have been expressed, the time for calm has arrived.
Remember that no storm lasts forever, and that
hidden within are always seeds of tranquillity.
There is a time for hostility and a time for
peace.
As the storm of a quarrel subsides, you must
find a way to disregard your ego’s need to be right.
It’s time to extend kindness by letting go of
your anger.
It’s over, so offer forgiveness to yourself and
the other person and encourage resentment to dissipate.
Be the one seeking a way to give, rather than
the one looking for something to get.
Regardless of what others around you are doing,
if you live with “true virtue,” you’ll seek a way to give.
This truth completely aligns with the Tao;
after all, the creator of life is always giving, never taking.
So change the way you think about scarcity and
resentment, and begin to truly feel the question How may I serve?
The universe will seem to respond, Finally, you
got it — you’re acting like me!
I’ll keep that flow coming into your life in
ways that will astound and delight you.
As Lao-tzu says,
“To the giver comes the
fullness of life;
to the taker, just an
empty hand.”
Here are some ways to make the wisdom of the
79th verse your reality:
Picture yourself at the termination of a
quarrel or major dispute.
Rather than reacting with old patterns of
residual anger, revenge, and hurt, visualize offering kindness, love, and
forgiveness.
Do this right now by sending out these “true
virtue” thoughts to any resentments you’re currently carrying.
Make this your standard response to any future
altercations:
I end on love, no matter what!
In the midst of arguments or disagreements,
practice giving rather than taking before you exit the fracas.
Offer the Tao treasures or real virtues by
presenting kindness rather than a put-down, or a sign of respect instead of
proving someone wrong.
Giving involves leaving the ego behind.
While it wants to win and show its superiority
by being contrary and disrespectful, your Tao nature wants to be at peace and
live in harmony.
You can reduce your quarrelling time to almost
zero if you practice this procedure.
Silently recite the following words from the
Prayer of Saint Francis:
“Where there is injury,
[let me bring] pardon.”
Be a giver of forgiveness as he teaches: Bring
love to hate, light to darkness, and pardon to injury.
Read these words daily, for they’ll help you
overcome your ego’s demands and know “the fullness of life.”
~ Dr Wayne Dyer
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Most of us allow small things to get in the way
of our enjoyment of life, and we get into the habit of not seeing all the
wonderful things that are in our lives.
I see this bad habit start at a very early age.
When I see a young child who is not getting his
own way, I will sometimes see him suck in the love-of-life energy.
It doesn’t normally last long with a young
child, though, and within a few minutes I will see this energy burst forward
again.
When you approach anything – work or any task
with love-of-life, the task becomes so much easier, you gain more confidence,
and start to see the positives in the work you are doing.
You realise how much you enjoy your colleagues,
or how nice so many of the customers are, or you simply appreciate going home
with a pay-packet.
When you approach work with this love-of-life
you have more mental and physical energy and are able to do a better job.
You are open to see and seize opportunities to
learn new things, or take on a new job.
It helps to move you forward in life. People
who really love life are frequently not in the most important jobs.
They may not need as much as others need in
terms of stimulation, or reward, but they often, though, live much more
satisfying and happy work lives than those who seek a ‘higher status’.
Remember to enjoy your life today.
Blessings to you your family and loved ones."
~ Lorna Byrne
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